In our society, cultural norms often suggest that men should be self-reliant, dominant, and always ‘in control’ — strong and resilient, never showing emotion. Being tearful or talking about feelings is still too often seen as weakness.
Women are statistically more likely to talk to friends and family about their emotions and are generally more open to accessing therapy. But the truth is, everyone can experience mental health challenges, regardless of gender.
Why men struggle to seek support
How we face and overcome emotional challenges depends on many factors — our upbringing, social and economic situation, role models, and even social media. Growing up, many men were taught messages such as “big boys don’t cry”, “men are strong”, or “emotions are soft.”
If this was the message you absorbed as a child, it can be difficult to know where to turn as an adult when you’re struggling. You might ask yourself: Where can I take my worries, fears, or emotions without being judged?
The impact of bottling things up
Keeping concerns to yourself can often lead to symptoms associated with male depression.
According to BACP research (November 2023), men struggling with depression are more likely to show signs such as risk-taking, anger, isolation, substance misuse, or exhaustion.
The BACP’s R.A.I.S.E. guide offers valuable insight and support on recognising and addressing these symptoms.
When emotions are buried or denied, they don’t disappear — they simply build up. Over time, this can spiral into deeper mental health difficulties, including depression and even suicidal thoughts.
In 2024, more than 5,700 deaths in the UK were registered as suicides, 74% of which were men (Samaritans Suicide Stats, 2024).
Counselling for men: a space for change
Counselling for men isn’t about giving you quick answers or a one-size-fits-all solution. It’s not an easy path — but it is an opportunity for real change.
Therapy can help you:
Understand yourself and your emotions more clearly
Explore what’s driving your behaviours or reactions
Develop healthier coping strategies
Improve your mental health and emotional wellbeing
Men’s counselling offers a confidential, non-judgmental space to talk openly. Here, you can explore your concerns, separate thoughts and feelings from harmful behaviours, and find clarity. The problems themselves might not disappear — but through therapy, you can learn to carry them differently.
Men’s mental health matters
Feelings and emotions are human — and men are human.
Men are allowed to feel, express, and process emotions safely. Speak to a therapist, some men may prefer a male therapist, others may not. What matters is choosing a therapist that you can connect with.
I am a qualified Psychotherapist and Counsellor, in private practice since 2019. I’m a registered member of the BACP and the Men’s Counselling Service.
I offer:
Online therapy sessions via video call – enabling UK wide access
In-person counselling in Blackburn (near Manchester)
Walk & Talk therapy in Blackburn
If you’re based in Blackburn or the North West and looking for counselling for men, I welcome you to get in touch.
Call or email to arrange an exploratory consultation and take the first step toward better mental health
